I am out of ideas with this one. The teenager was easy go wean and easy to potty train. Everything was on schedule, without a bump. Not this new baby. She is capable of using the potty, but has decided against it.
The current view on when to begin training a girl is 18 months. When she reached that marker, we purchased two different chairs, one for upstairs and one for down, and got busy. It looked like it was going to be a breeze. We also thought it might help that she is the youngest in her class at school and everyone else was trained or training. She played and practiced for a month, pulling her pull-up up and down, sitting, wiping, and washing her hands.
Then something happened. She lost interest. We still work with her, offer bribes (incentives is the politically correct term), and cheer loudly at her rare successes. But at the end of the day, she prefers to pee and poop her pants. We tried letting her wear them dirty for a little while, hoping the discomfort might encourage her to stop going in her pants, but this kid really doesn't care. She doesn't even want her diaper changed. A dirty bottom is just fine.
I know it will happen in time, her own time. However, any ideas or suggestions from you guys would be greatly appreciated. I'm out of ideas.